Hove seafront don’t miss it !

October 20, 2018
Hove beach huts

Colourful beach huts on Hove seafront

I try to be mindful, and try, and try ! Walking along Hove seafront most mornings I’m struck by how many people are either looking at their phone or plugged into their music or having a conversation.
I don’t know about you but I’m really bad as multi-tasking. My intention when I might make a call, look at my phone is a way of saving time. However, the truth is I lose valuable time, by missing out on my daily walk, and that space before work with myself and my thoughts.

Its only by giving ourselves these spaces, we can tune in and observe, “How do I feel”, “What’s going through my mind” and be present to whatever is going on for us. Sometimes the most difficult thing is to ‘feel the feelings’ and experience the discomfort .

Psychologically we get into trouble when we repress, ignore our emotions by distraction, avoidance or using substances, tempting though that is. Being digitally connected is a socially acceptable way of doing this, but we rob ourselves of the here and now, of being present.

So, here’s my challenge; make your journey to work, to school, to college gadget free tomorrow, experience the life around you, observe the people , surroundings and your internal world. Notice what happens and accept it.
Want to know more about being mindful ? Check out the Headspace website,

Sunday Blues

February 21, 2016
Recharging the batteries on a Summer Sunday

Recharging the batteries on a Summer Sunday

Sunday can be an odd day. For some, its busy organising others, ourselves, catching up, shopping and all the ‘stuff’ left over from the week before. Like most people I set off on Friday evening, then by Sunday afternoon realise I haven’t done half the tasks I’ve set myself.

In all this activity however, its important, I would say essential to take time for yourself and breath. Allow yourself the ‘gift’ if you like of that walk in the fresh air, TV guilty pleasure, or weekend slab of cake that is a world away from spirialized courgette (which I love too, but Saturday cake is fabulous).

Find out what works for you and nurtures your mental health for positive times.

Me ? A walk with the sausage-dog, tea, cake and guilty pleasure telly; which I am about to take part in now. Happy Sunday.

Mindfulness

April 19, 2015

Mindfulness can be described as ‘being present, in the moment without judgement’ and is increasingly recommended for improving your mental health and as part of psycho-therapeutic treatment. When we are mindful, we are in the moment, aware of thoughts feelings, emotions and behaviours but without judging them, and not thinking abut past, past but being very much in the present.

An example? Well, I was reminded of this a few weeks ago. I’ve loved ‘The Who’ since my teens and was thrilled to see them at London’ sO2 Arena. A mass of people, OK, I was really far away (see photo) but could see and hear Pete Townsend wind-milling his guitar, Roger singing lyrics I know so well from singing badly in my car and fabulous drumming from Zac Starkey. Loud, fabulous rock music, and consciously tried to be in the ‘now’ to imprint the concert as a memory in my long term.

Perfectionism; is Good Enough Good Enough ?

March 21, 2015
A Perfect Sunset ?

A Perfect Sunset ?

A perfect sunset or could it be better? Does that boat on the horizon ruin the experience and spoil the whole thing. Have I failed because this isn’t a perfect photograph?

We all like to do well, but if you find yourself rarely satisfied with the result or perceive yourself as having failed despite doing well then you might be a perfectionist. 

Of course having perfectionist traits often results in high achievement and being the person at work or in the home that can be relied upon to do the job. But if you are never satisfied with the results, or always feel you could have done better then this will impact negatively on your self-esteem. Being perfectionist is also exhausting;  all that constant striving!